Becoming Intentional

Do you ever have dreams about doing something big or spectacular? How about something that may just be a significant step in your life? When I have a responsibility to do something, I tend to do it very well; but, if it does not have that responsibility tied to it (and sometimes even if it does), I can become very good at putting off those dreams or even letting them just fade away. But, something is changing…

Intentionally Start Something

There are some days that I really get excited about something that I have accomplished. A few days ago I had one of those times with something I had written. I turned the writing into a blog post (this post) and I made it a point to tell a few people about it – including some that I don’t often mention my blog to. As I told one friend, this friend made an interesting observation.

As I explained my post, I talked about the experiences that I have had recently with my kids and some of the things that I have been trying to teach my kids. During the conversation, my friend was surprised with some of the things I had been doing and he observed that I was being very intentional with kids.

We dug further into the topic and observed an interesting dichotomy: I am learning a lot regarding family, life and leadership. I am writing about the things I learn. And since I don’t want to be a hypocrite in what I write, I am being more intentional in applying what I learn. This challenges me to learn more and better implement what I learn. Then, I end up writing about what I learn. And the circle continues.

So, I have discovered that I am becoming intentional. At least, I am making some progress.

In this process, I have discovered some tips that have been helpful. Here are those tips and an example of how I have used them:

  • Identify. This is the beginning of things where we figure out a need, a desire, or something that needs to change.

    A couple of years ago, I figured out that I wanted to learn everything that I could about leadership and children’s ministry – I wanted to become an expert (as much as possible).
  • Plan. We have to have a place to start. And, we need to have a sense of direction to head in. So, we need at least a basic plan. The plan is subject to modification (see adapt below); but we need a course to follow including a starting point and some basic guide-posts (near-term and long-term goals).

    My initial plan was to start reading everything I could on the two subjects (which seemed daunting for me because I tent to read rather slowly).
  • Start. This sounds simple; but, often-times seems to be the hardest part of the process. With this, you have to just go for the gusto and just start.

    My start was a making the decision to begin, telling my wife what I was going to do, ordering a few books, and then picking up a book to read the first page.
  • Follow Through. Even though the Start is significant, the Start by itself doesn’t make a difference unless it is followed with continued action. Continue to identify the next step and commit to do that one next thing.

    It is so easy to get bogged down or side-tracked. I try to make time every day to read at least a little of something – either a blog post, a chapter of a book, something (which reflect my short-term goals). And then, occasionally, I look at the long-term goals to see if I am going in the right direction and to stay motivated towards the big picture.
  • Adapt. As we make progress on our journey, there will inevitably be the potential for changes to the system. Don’t get distracted; but, be willing to adapt your course when appropriate.

    As I continued the learning process, I discovered other mediums for learning (podcasts, blogs, etc.) and I have expanded my arena of learning to include several subjects.
  • Share the Experience. This can take on many forms. It can be as simple as telling a friend about what you have just done. Or it could be something bigger based on what this ‘thing’ is. The point, is to take the experiences beyond yourself.

    When I keep things to myself, it is very easy to let good choices and actions begin to fade. When I share the experiences with others, I bring accountability into my life. This process also serves to make the choice more real and more significant. And, as a bonus, it can often serve to inspire others.  For me, one way to share the experience is, obviously, blogging.

So, as I learn, I will continue to write. And, I will share many of my experiences on this blog – to help me and, hopefully, to help you. Maybe, together we can be more intentional in changing our world.

Question:  What helps you to be intentional with the important things in your life?  You can leave a comment below.

12 Comments to “Becoming Intentional”

  • Brandon April 12, 2011 at 6:46 am

    I like all of your points! Great post!

  • Adam April 12, 2011 at 7:37 am

    Planning is big for me. If I have a plan down I am more likely to start pursuing the plan and accomplishing stuff.

    Great post, and I wish you all the best my friend!

    • Steven Cribbs April 12, 2011 at 1:11 pm

      Totally – a plan makes a huge difference. This is something I have to work at – it is sometimes hard for me to take the time to create a plan when I see something that I really just want to get on with and get done. A plan, though, really helps to keep me going and to keep me headed in the right direction. Thanks Adam!

  • TNeal April 12, 2011 at 10:04 am


    Excellent advise. Sharp, clear, and to the point. Also a challenge to move forward intentionally.

    As for helping me be intentional, I’m learning to write things down (hopes, vision, tasks) which is contrary to my nature. To-do lists usually reside in my head but I’m finding, as many have advised, putting things down in writing helps me do two things. Focus on the future and mark progress as I check things off.

    Good post.


    • Steven Cribbs April 12, 2011 at 1:14 pm

      Thanks Tom!

      I have never really done well with writing, and working from, lists. Although, I am trying to get better at this. I recently read “Getting Things Done” and I really appreciated the thought that getting everything written down, and stored in a trusted system that I can work from, allows me to clear my mind and not be bogged down from trying to remember everything.

  • JD Eddins April 13, 2011 at 7:41 am

    Those are some great points Steven. I fell like I am on the same journey. Hopefully both of us can become more intentional with our families. Thanks for sharing your experience here, it helps all of us.

    • Steven Cribbs April 13, 2011 at 10:02 am

      I think many of us are on a similar journey. The cool thing about it is that we can share our experiences with each other and help each other through the adventure. It makes a world of difference to know that we are not alone!

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  • TNeal April 19, 2011 at 10:16 am

    For me, a part of being intentional comes down to building momentum through what I read, hear, study, and fix my focus upon.

    It also has to do with what I pass up. For instance, I pass up a lot of good, inviting food or a second helping because I’m fixed upon a healthier lifestyle and weight loss. That frees me up to make other choices that move me toward an intended destination.

    • Steven Cribbs April 19, 2011 at 11:03 am

      That’s a great point. Sometimes the good can get in the way of the best. Learning to say no appropriately to the good things is difficult; but, is often necessary. As they say, “to much of a good thing is …”

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